There are gifts and non-gifts.
Any exchange bearing a taste of entitlement, or obligation, or commerce is non-gift; true gifts are always surprising, ultimately desirable and given freely.
The receiver will ask, “How can this be for me?”, or say, “This is incomprehensibly generous.”
The giver will say, “I could have only given this to you”, and, “This is the very least that I could have done”.
Any more, or less, is non-gift.
The first such Gift: Life itself.
The second: Freedom.
The third: Redemption.
We deserve none of these; to refuse them is Death.
All other true gifts carry an echo of these three; true giving touches the hearts of giver and receiver and, if only for a moment, they connect two humans at their core, place their hands in God’s, and peel away the inner being’s rusty armour.